“The beauty of male has not yet been portrayed by the only one who can do so – the female.”
Believe it or not, not every man in the world thinks Scarlett Johansson is beautiful, and not every woman in the world wants to marry George Clooney. As a society, we are very much swayed by the media and we tend to base the standard on what we are told is beautiful. All men want the American sweetheart with a quirky sense of humor, and all women want to tie down the aloof, heartthrob hero who has no emotions. In reality, most men probably find the silly Meg Ryan type annoying, and the women chasing after that James Bond type are really chasing after some nerdy, self-conscious Joe Schmoe who reads books like “I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell”, and “The Game”, as guides to get women. As harsh as it may sound, it is far truer than living happily ever after.
So according to whomever, beauty is in the eye of the beholder – however, it seems like we all have the same eyes – on a general scale anyway. So where does type come in, or personality? Do these factors accentuate or diminish one’s physical beauty? If you have a thing for redheads, is a gorgeous blonde less appealing? Are we all really this shallow?
According to a survey earlier this year in The New York Times, men and women have similar wants and needs when it comes to dating – though women tend to base more emphasis on being family oriented, financial stability, and status – whereas men base more emphasis on physical appearance, patience, and passion.
When it came to qualities that men and women could not stand, they were all similar but they ranked differently on a scale of importance. Both were very concerned with infidelity, rude and cruel behavior, drug use, and dishonesty. Infidelity was more disconcerting for women than it was for men, but poor hygiene and mean-spiritedness was more of a deal breaker for men.
It would appear that physical appearance is definitely an important factor. Men tend to be more concerned with this area than women but maybe not to the point of a woman making herself sick over it. While the survey did point out that being excessively overweight was a factor that men ranked highly on the “not for me” list, preferring a woman to be a certain body type did not rank at all. There was also no importance on makeup or lack thereof. Men seemed to favor a healthy woman, and women favored a stable, dependable man.